Searching for your ancestors and finding your previously unknown cousins can bring a lot of joy, even when you are not able to meet them face-to-face. I've been lucky enough to meet a few newly found cousins face-to-face and it's brought me a lot of happiness.

That said, it hurts like hell when you lose a newly found cousin. One of mine, Carole, who I never met personally passed away last week. We made our connection through a DNA test and began corresponding to find some missing links as to how we were connected.

I finally found the link with much info from another newly found cousin. I contacted Carole immediately but I don't know if she got the information in time. I'm sure she would have been thrilled to see that the mystery was solved. We were third cousins through my father's side of the tree. Carole and I had some coincidences in our connection. She and I lived about 5 miles apart in San Francisco for 26 years and we didn't know about each other. Another coincidence is that she had her mother's old address book which had my grandparents' name and address in it, along with some other family members I knew as a kid.

I am moved by her passing and am surprised by the depth of my sadness. She and I had hoped to meet in San Francisco one day but alas, it was not to be. I'm glad I got to know her as much as I did through our correspondence.

Be at peace cousin Carole.